I’ve always thought this.
The article seems to be a stub, but no matter, the point being made is one in which I concur. The very public proposal is not romantic, it is the opposite. It is selfish attention grabbing and it is coercion, because the person on the receiving end is having to make a public, life altering decision, having been put on the spot. There have been occasions where the answer has been a resounding ‘no,’ (and good for them) but the bottom line here is that the woman is being subjected to a form of emotional blackmail. That, frankly, is a massive red flag and any sensible woman would not only refuse, but walk away from the relationship.
I sort of agree but I would also say that it is nobody’s business but that of the couple in question.
Which is why it should be a private matter.
It’s the ‘grand gesture’ – organising a marching band/flash mob/stadium camera focus,priest to appear… expecting simpering lady to swoon and throw herself into a life where all the subsequent gestures will probably be narcissistic, controlling and selfish/thoughtless.
Ah, young love *sigh*
Narcissism is the word that sprung to my mind.
Hopefully they will know each other enough to know if such a gesture will be well received. Some people clamour for all the attention while others run away and hide. Also, hopefully you know what the answer will be in advance, if not ask her best friend.
Personally I’m a run away and hide sort, but have friends who would adore the gesture.
Unfortunately because the article is in the ‘Independent’ which is a viciously anti – white racist, pro Militant Trans (so effectively pro paedophile) and pro Net Zero (so pro Genocide) publication therefore while I concur with the sentiment the medium is the modern day equivalent of ‘Volkischer Beobachter’ so can’t condone it.
It is not fair, in old fashioned terms. It sparks of desperation.
A marriage should be approached cautiously
Do you get on with future in-laws? Do you get on with partners friends? With whom are you going to have a good evening night out with?
Just do not accept or comit in a hurry.
I have witnessed several public proposals of marriage (Including my own) and my observation is this; if the proposee looks around for the approval of the mob, the couples future relationship may be on shaky ground. If the two parties are so caught up in the moment, they look neither right nor left, then the marriage has a pretty good chance of success.
But most people I know have only made the grand gesture if they are reasonably confident of a ‘yes’. One time (So I was told- I wasn’t there) the soon to be affianced replied with “Oh yes please!”
Methinks the Independent correspondent in question knows little of the ways of the human heart.
OT again but I thought that you would love this one at Worstal’s blog.
https://www.timworstall.com/2023/08/ok-fair-enough-2/
There is a huge possibility of a plague equivalent to the black death in the next five years, oh noes we’re doomed.