Four years already. Time flies. They say that time heals, but it doesn’t really. The pain is still here, it just changes. This is one of the big anniversaries and people who knew her will remember those, but as a spouse, I have little reminders through the year. Things that only we shared. Every so often something will trigger a memory and I’ll have a bad moment. Or maybe it’s something that happened or something that someone said and I’ll think “Frankie would smile at that.”
Another thing that makes me think of her is when I have to try and fix a piece of technology. It’s what she did for a living and she was a natural engineer.
I had just completed her death certificate when I got news from Devon that Mum was dying. I missed her by half an hour.
Four years. Life goes on. It’s never the same though. It can never be the same again.
This picture was taken during that last summer in France.
So sorry ?
Don’t know why that emoji came out as a question mark!
Technology, eh?
Words are never enough. Only family, friends and pets help. Sometimes poetry and old familiar music.
God bless.
Make the most of the happy memories, take care.
My thoughts are with you. There, but for the grace of God, go I.
My wife died nearly five years ago after more than forty years of marriage. I have discovered that the pain and sense of loss never goes away. You just learn to live with it. My thoughts are with you.
I’m sorry for your loss. One of my old colleagues and friend lost his wife 3 years ago. He was heavily affected for two years but has gradually resurfaced thanks to his grand children. He still gets caught out by anniversaries though.
It does make me value my wife more, and wonder how either of us would cope if the other died.
I live alone and have never experienced losing a partner.
However, I did lose my brother last year, in early March. Being the elder of the two of us, he was very much responsible for who I am today, and I miss him just as dearly.
But if there was one item of advice I could give you, it would be to remember their life, rather than their death.
When the day comes, the anniversary of my brother’s death, I will most likely get up and go about my daily business, without giving it a second thought, yet like you I have memories of our childhood and the things we went through together down the years, each and every day. Keep the thoughts going, ignore what day it is.
So sorry for your losses. You still have your loyal readership (such as we are).
@LR
Keep your memories alive and enjoy them.
My father died suddenly in 1984 and I still miss him a lot, but treasure all he did for me and what I learned from him. I often revisit past good times, especially when in bed before falling asleep – it’s nice
Be strong
God Bless, P
Thoughts with you.
So sorry. Hang in there.
Yes. I find it helps to remember those who have gone from your life in the best of their times. Smiling, laughing, at their best.
I know it’s not much, but it does help you come to terms. Hang in there. She would want you to. And that is what is most important.
Very best wishes LR.