This one strikes home to me.
Kelsey Parker has revealed she has decided to take off her wedding rings nearly two years after her husband Tom Parker’s death.
The widow of The Wanted star, 33, said the ‘painful’ decision came after months of ‘torturing herself’ over when would be the right time to take them off.
Mrs L died six years ago come February. I still think of her on a daily basis. But time moves on. Life moves on. I did take off my wedding ring – at about the two year point, so about the same as Ms Parker. At first it felt like a betrayal, but it did seem the right thing to do. I still have our wedding rings in a dish on the sideboard. I look at them from time to time.
But, as I say, we move on. I am dating again. This one seems to be doing well, so we see how it goes. We are both widowed, so both understand that widowhood always means there is unfinished business.
My wife died 12 years ago. I still wear my wedding ring, largely because I cannot get it off. I know, a jeweller could cut it off, but it’s still there. About 8 years ago I started living with a widow, who also still wears her wedding ring. So to the outside world we look like a married couple, which can lead to some amusing naming difficulties.
We are both comfortable about this. Neither has suggested the other should remove their rings. As ever, it’s a case of different folks, different strokes.
I wish you well with your new paramour (I hate the term ‘partner’; makes me sound like a fucking solicitor – with apologies to any solicitors here). I know how difficult such new relationships can be.
Happy New Year.
Thanks. We have the added interest of having to learn each other’s language, which is amusing at times.
“makes me sound like a fucking solicitor – with apologies to any solicitors here”
Think about how awkward it is for solicitors these days. Whoever came up with “partner” in the modern sense deserves a good kick.
It’s a daft term and I don’t use it. So, girlfriend seems a bit odd, given that we are both in our sixties. I suppose paramour is accurate and a little quaint.
A bidie-in.
Another Scots term. Implying some permanency. Sometimes when some legal or religious restriction prevents it becoming formal.
Well, God bless you all.
Not fond of “partner” or “girlfriend”.
I use “current squeeze” when being light hearted and “companion” for more formal occasions.
At work “the missus” is pretty much universal, though they may not say this at home and I am not sure what the missus’s calls them.
Many years ago I did business with a company, one of whose directors was in an unmarried relationship, quite uncommon at the time. He always blithely referred to the lady concerned as his ‘concubine’, even when she was within earshot. Worked for them.