Emily Cole really can’t stop making an arse of herself. Having been monstered on Twatter for her idiotic tweet the other day, the Grauniad gives her a platform from which to peddle the old sexist, misogynistic, anti-male bias that underpins that despicable rag.
It’s rather disconcerting to find yourself at the centre of a Twitter storm – especially for someone who barely uses Twitter, let alone corresponds with the media.
Yet here you are, on the mainstream media digging an even deeper hole. You didn’t have to go onto the facile Twatter and tell the world that having been caught out behaving badly you were called on it by the train manager who appears to have expressed irritation at your behaviour. I can only pick up from what has been said and put the pieces together, but here it goes; You were in a first class apartment with a standard class ticket (I could be wrong here, but we have precious little to go on and this seems to be the problem – exacerbated by an overcrowded train). There seems to be some indication that you were in a reserved seat. You didn’t like it when you were asked to move. A witness suggests that you were
…loud, drunk rude and obnoxious throughout the journey.
Yet here you are demanding respect:
Respect – being seen to be of worth, to not feel belittled, patronised or put down – is what we all want.
No. Respect is earned. You do not have any entitlement to it. You are entitled to be treated with courtesy and I very much doubt that the train manager did anything other than treat you as such. I’ve made enough rail journeys in my time and observed similar exchanges and in every single case, the train manager has behaved with courtesy even when faced with rude, obnoxious and drunken behaviour. I only have hearsay here, so I have to choose who I believe and compounded by the witness, I believe the train manager. You do not deserve respect, you deserve any and all disdain meted out to you.
There’s nothing wrong with honey/sweetie/pet as a general rule, but when they’re used in such a demeaning manner it’s not OK. It’s intimidating and misogynistic.
Misogyny is a term that means hatred of women. Calling you Honey even if done so with irritation is not misogynistic and you provide no evidence whatsoever that this man hates women. If he was irritated, it was because you were in breach of the terms of carriage relevant to your ticket. You were the one behaving badly here, yet you then decide to use Twitter to broadcast this to the world. Then of course, the Groan being viciously anti-male and anti-white is more than happy to host your pathetic little whinge in order to bolster its prejudices and those of the clapping seals that mindlessly buy into its bigotry.
It’s what led to my complaint, and it’s also at the root of the complaints that many men are sending my way. Such messages have been filled with obscenities and accusations, as well as others (from men and women) simply objecting to a “snowflake generation” and “PC crap”.
If it walks like a duck and quacks like a duck… Political correctness is not being polite, it is a nasty attempt to shut down voices that the lefty establishment would prefer not to hear. It is evil; pure unadulterated evil. And if you behave like a snowflake, then don’t be too surprised if the epithet is applied to you. So far all I have seen of you suggests a spoiled brat who needs to grow up.
Words are powerful; they are not merely passive vehicles through which information is conveyed. In adding “honey” to the end of his retort, he asserted his dominance as a man and my inferiority as a woman. Similarly, the intended action hidden in the social media team’s response in suggesting “pet” and “love” as an alternative to “honey” was to belittle – to put me, a woman who dares to call out misogyny – back in my place. And have a good laugh while doing so.
Boo fucking hoo. You did not call out misogyny, you behaved like an entitled brat and the response was irritation. Get over yourself. If they had a laugh at your expense that was entirely your fault. Get over it and learn from it. Oh and grow up. Most of us have had similar experiences and we didn’t go running to Twatter or the Guardian; we dealt with it and moved on. That’s part of what being an adult involves.
This is nothing new. And that’s the crux: this is a society-wide issue, not one of individual wrongdoing.
Bullshit.
We must move towards a society in which everyone is valued and values others in return, regardless of our differences and our gender.
Well, perhaps you will refrain from trying to out someone doing their job in difficult circumstances on Twatter over a minor disagreement, then?
And that includes getting to a point where a man doesn’t feel disrespected by a complaint by virtue of the fact that it’s coming from a woman.
No, he felt disrespected because of your behaviour, not the contents of your knickers.
This is one of the many ways in which the patriarchy effects[sic] men.
Ah, teh patriarchy… Time to switch off.
Snowflake alert! snowflake alert! BEEEEP! BEEEP !
First rule of holes; you find yourself in one, stop digging.
Especially if you yourself are an arsehole.
Unless you believe, as so many people these days do, that there’s no such thing as bad publicity.
Her approach to the massive criticism seems to be to emulate Mandy Rice Davies. Not once does it occur to her that they might have a point. Lack of self awareness is strong in this one.
Wearing a T-shirt saying “toxic masculinity alert” could be a conversation starter with some interesting (deranged) snowflakes.
SJWs always double down.